As I was saying......Here I am sitting in CA without my husband.We're in the Army now. The recruiter had some valid points and also as a trained and skilled salesman he also told us what we wanted to hear. I respect my husbands choice to join the Army.He felt it was a way for us to get our lives together started.He's getting some valuable training that will stay with him even when he is no longer in the military.I'm very proud of him for being so strong and for sacrificing time with his familiy to serve his country and at the same time make a life for us.I won't lie at times I am very angry.I lay in bed night after night missing my husband I cry at his absence.I want so bad to lay next to him and tell him about my day and listen to how his day went like we use to do.I miss his touch,his smell everything that he is.Most of all I miss all this lost time.We are going into our 8th month of him being gone.He did come home for 2 weeks at Christmas in which time we got married,had a reception,a mini honey moon,celebrated Christmas,New Years, bought gifts,tried to to unite our children into 1 family,visit all friends and family and last but not least spend time with each other as newly weds!As you can imagine this all happened literally in the blink of an eye.Before I knew it we were at the airport and I was saying goodbye once again. This gooodbye was much harder for both of us.We knew what the 2.5 months apart had been like during BCT.Only getting to talk 3x.each one those conversations were only 1 minute long. The only thing that got us through BCT was the letter writing.Make sure if you are reading this and your spouse or BF/GF are in BCT WRITE ALOT OF LETTERS>>>>EVERYDAY!!!!!!
Of course AIT is much different than BCT.He is able to use his cell phone everyday after classes and all weekend.Ok so let me say that again....He is "ABLE" does that mean he does? NO not as often as I would like him to.Let me tell you my husband is not a phone person! He is however an avid video game player.Yes he had me mail him his PS3.I haven't heard from him much since...LOL.He does call me everyday.We talk for about 15 min.The weekends are when I usually fall apart and get pissed.He gets"in trouble"as he puts it for not calling me. "I didn't have time I was busy with the guys at the mall."he tells me. Hell no that's not an excuse!I'm your wife you make time for me dammit!Oh ya its an arguement we have every weekend.Its getting better.I understand its hard for him to be away and his " battle buddies"are now his family too. I love him and trust him and I know he loves me too.As long as I get atleast 1 call a day Im ok. He still gets"in trouble" from time to time.LOL......he's knows just what to say to make me forget about why I was mad in the first place and then we move on.
I did get to go stay on post with him last month.I was there for 2 weeks.We got to spend a lot of time together.I got to keep him overnight on the weekends!!! We had a wonderful time.I got a taste for life on post.I made a pretty good contribution to the PX and even had to buy an extra suitcase as a result.Then of course the dreaded day came and this time my husband was seeing me off at the airport. Finally we are starting to kind of see a shimmer of light at the end of this long tunnel we find our selfs trapped in.I'm hoping by the middle of June I will find my husband waiting for me when I crawl out into the light.As I am learning with the Army nothing is a sure thing. I will not allow myself to get excited until he has his orders in hand and they say I can go with him.
So I've pretty much told the surface story of what my experience has been up to this point. In my next blog I will go into all the details of what its been like as far as getting signed up for TRICARE and BAH and DEERS and all the hundreds of phone calls I've had to make.......